Father’s Day began in 1910 when Sonora Smart Dodd of Spokane, WA, sat in church listening to a Mother’s Day sermon. She decided she wanted to create Father’s Day to honor fathers and her dad who raised the newborn and his other five children alone, after Dodd’s mother died in childbirth. It wasn’t until 1972 that Father’s Day became an official holiday. Unfortunately, my father is no longer with us, but it is a great time to remember him and the many things he taught me that are useful at the agency and in my personal life.

Dependability and responsibility are what count

When you have a job to do either professionally or personally as a parent, family member, etc., my father taught us the importance of responsibility and reliability when it came to homework, volunteerism, and professional responsibilities. My father instilled in us a sense that when people are counting on you, you need to do your job and do it well. Do not overpromise and under-deliver. If you say you will be there at 12, be there on time; be dependable and reliable, even if it means making other sacrifices.

The moral of the story: Live up to your responsibilities.

Just because it was on sale, doesn’t mean you saved money

Picture this scenario. The daughter walks into the house and is all excited to show off the new sweater she bought.

“Look, Daddy, the price tag says this was originally $200, on sale for $100, with an additional 20% off for using a credit card and I had a coupon so it cost me $48. I saved $152.”
“No, you spent $48; you would not have bought it for $200, if they ever even sold it for that price. Are you going to put the $152 away that you didn’t spend?”
“No, Daddy, but it’s still a pretty sweater and I’ll have a lot of use for it.”

The moral of the story is to watch your pennies, know where your money is going and a bargain is not always a bargain.

Pay your bills

I mentioned above using a credit card and saving money and my father was fine with having credit cards. He did not condone not paying the bill in full for two reasons, namely, the exorbitant interest charged by credit card companies, it is equivalent in his mind to spending money you do not have. Even if we are talking about a large department store or the telephone company, both of which have more money than I ever will, I have agreed that in exchange for goods or services I will pay them and I need to live up to my part of the deal.

The moral of the story: pay your bills before the due date and don’t spend money you don’t have.

Life may or may not be fair

Have you ever been upset and looking for some sympathy and not received it? While my father was a very loving man, he did not tolerate self-pity and many times as a teenager when things did not go my way and I’d complain “life is so unfair.” He’d tell me, “How do you know life is unfair? Maybe you are being treated fairly and it’s just not what you want. “

The moral of the story: If you’re not getting your way, you have to accept life does not always go your way.

Prepare your children to be responsible adults

My father was sometimes tough with us because he felt it was part of his duty to mold us into responsible adults and citizens. He wanted us to be reliable, caring, responsible, practical people with common sense who follow the rules of life and achieve success. He also wanted us to be happy with our life choices. Daddy, I hope I’m making you proud.

Happy Father’s Day.